We have all heard the threats from overacting, overprotective dads; come near my daughter and face my wrath. This may be cute and funny but in reality, both young men and women have mutually decided to be together. If a mistake is made, it is on both of their parts.
Smart fathers know to trust and believe their daughters have been given the tools and confidence to make their own decisions. Sometimes they will make mistakes along the way, but they will own it and do better next time. Still, it’s never a bad idea to scare both teens, even if it’s just for a little bit.
One father walked downstairs one morning. He found his teen daughter and boyfriend lying naked on his couch, sleeping.
Rather than lose his temper and begin uttering threats, the father made breakfast. He went upstairs and quietly asked his wife, younger daughter, and son to go downstairs in complete silence.
He got everyone to sit down. The dining room table was 20 feet from the living room where the young lovers were in a deep sleep.
WITH HIS STRONG RUSSIAN ACCENT THE DAD YELLED “YOUNG MAN! BREAKFAST IS READY!”
THE TEEN JUMPED OFF THE SOFA AND NERVOUSLY GOT DRESSED. THE FATHER OFFERED HIM A SEAT AT THE TABLE. “MY FRIEND, I’M GOING ASK YOU A QUESTION. THE ANSWER YOU GIVE IS VERY IMPORTANT….FOR YOU,” HE BEGAN. “DO YOU LIKE CATS?” THEY TEENS BOTH MADE A MISTAKE, THE FATHER KNEW THERE WAS NO NEED TO DWELL ON IT.
HIS DAUGHTER AND THIS TEEN BOY HAD BEEN DATING FOR ABOUT A MONTH WHEN THE SLEEPING ON THE COUCH INCIDENT HAPPENED. HE SEEMED UNEDUCATED BUT VERY RESPECTFUL. HE PICKED HIS DAUGHTER UP EVERY MORNING IN HIS BICYCLE TO TAKE HER TO SCHOOL AND DO THEIR HOMEWORK TOGETHER IN THE EVENING. HE PUT UP WITH HER TEEN MOOD SWINGS AND WAS KIND TO HIS YOUNGEST DAUGHTER AND WIFE. AFTER EIGHT MONTHS OF DATING, HIS SON CAME HOME WITH AN ALARMING STORY.
TURNED OUT, THIS BOY WAS HOMELESS. HIS ABUSIVE FATHER COMMITTED SUICIDE WHEN HE WAS 15 AND HIS CRACK-ADDICTED MOTHER ABANDONED HIM SHORTLY AFTER. FROM WHAT HIS SON GATHERED, HE SLEPT ON PARK BENCHES, CHEAP HOTELS, OR WITH “FRIENDS.” HE WORKED IN CONSTRUCTION TO EAT.
NEIGHBORS SOMETIMES FED HIM, BUT HE WENT HUNGRY MOST OF THE TIME. AND YET EVERY NIGHT AFTER COMPLETING HIS HOMEWORK WITH HIS GIRLFRIEND, THE TEEN ALWAYS LEFT WITH A SMILE ON HIS FACE.
THAT NIGHT THE DAD WAS WAITING TO GIVE THE TEEN A KEY TO THE HOUSE. RULES AND EXPECTATIONS WERE SET. HE LIVED IN THE SPARE ROOM WHICH WAS FURNISHED TO HIS LIKING. HE COMPLETED SCHOOL WITH A DREAM TO BE SELF-EMPLOYED.
That was in 2000. 20 years later, that homeless boy is married to his school sweetheart. They run a business together while they raise their three children.